Looking for a cost-effective, easy to learn way to be romantic? Look no further than the napkin rose.
Picture it: You’re out on a date with a beautiful girl. Maybe someplace nice, maybe the dining hall. As you sit there chatting, you pull out a gorgeous tissue paper rose from under the table. She’s amazed, she hasn’t been given a rose like this before. It’s a magical picture…and it takes 5 minutes to learn.
Check it out: It’s only a few steps, and with a little practice you can do it all without looking. In the competitive dating world of college, this tip will give you the edge you need over those other guys who can’t even make a rose out of paper.
My friends and I used to write on a napkin and have a friend take it over to the girl. “I think you’re gorgeous and I’d like to take you out on a date. If you agree to this, please smile.”
The only downside is I met my girlfriend this way, my best friend met his girlfriend this way, and another close friend met his fiance this way. When we all get together, we have to jump on all the “How did you two meet” grenades. If anything, this line works too well.
-John Hatchbrook, UML
I’ve found one of the biggest problems with college dating is flakiness. You can go out with a girl, think that everything went spectacular, only to never hear from her again. This is why I’ve developed a corny move to prevent this from happening (Like my old man taught me: if it looks stupid but works, it ain’t stupid)
On the date, I’ll typically go out wearing this cheap but good looking necklace. When it comes time to part ways with Miss Right, I ask
“Hey, you’re not a thief, are you?”
She typically replies “Haha no, why?”
Then I hit them with “Hold on. This necklace means a lot to me. I want you to hold onto it for me until I see you again” Then gently put it on her neck, and depending on your chemistry, give her a passionate kiss. Its romantic as hell, and you risk an inexpensive necklace for an almost certain chance at a second date!
Treat his or her palate to a mouth-watering trip around the globe by sampling the finest chocolates our planet has to offer. Handmade using sustainably grown cocoa, they’ll find pure bliss as you bite into each of the five different and equally delicious chocolate bars.
It’s legitimately a perfect gift for anything: birthday, anniversary, that time of the month. I suggest you buy some and save it for when you need a gift to save the day.
It appears the Tinder App is the future of online dating for our generation. It allows people to feel selective over partners with minimal effort. In concept, the idea is you select whether you want possibly talk to someone by swiping left or right.
Although in practice, this is a DUMB STRATEGY. If both people swipe right, then you get the option to chat. However, you don’t have to talk to them! And you can even block them after matching!
So follow the advice of experts and swipe right like a madman. Don’t stop and evaluate a profile. You’re wasting your time when you don’t even have a guarantee of ever matching or talking to this person.
Note for girls: If you choose this strategy, you’re probably going to get tons of matches. Which doesn’t mean you shouldn’t still do it.
-Tim Robbins, Florida State
Never tell a girl where you’re going or how to dress. Instead, tell her to “dress for a first date with a guy she really likes”. Now, pick three places you’d like to go: someplace fun and active (bowling, pool, mini golf, go-kart racing, ballgame, etc), something romantic and classy (nice restaurant, upscale lounge, art gallery opening) and something in between (nice bar, coffee shop, comedy club). Now, when you pick her up, let the way she’s dressed decide which you’re going to do: If she’s wearing something sexy and revealing (dress, high heels, low cut top, etc.) than she wants to go somewhere classy and romantic. If she’s sporting some jeans, tennis shoes or flip-flops, and a tee, the bowling ally or pool hall may be a good bet. If she’s wearing jeans, high heeled boots, and nice top or blouse, than she’s not really jonesing for the super romance treatment, and she put in more effort than mini golf deserves (eighteen holes of mini golf in heels… seriously?), so a comedy club or some place with live music is a good choice. And never, EVER, do a movie on the first date!
-Corey Hartman, University of Alabama
College is a time to have fun in hookups and dating, but it’s also the time to try out mature relationships. Lots of people know that having a weekly “date night” with your significant other can keep your relationship happy. But a lot of times when we have been out trying to have a nice romantic evening we end up discussing plans for school or whether we should move in together, etc. Not very romantic, right?
Yet, when you’re in a long term relationship, there are a lot of “business” items which do need to be discussed. The solution I’ve found is to have coffee and/or breakfast once a week during which time we discuss those kinds of things. Breakfast is a good because you are fresh, presumably sober and have the day ahead of you to accomplish stuff. Extra points if you make it a nice breakfast with pancakes.
Knowing in advance that you will have time to discuss the “business” of a long term relationship really reduces stress on your relationship!
When it comes to condom opinions in college, I’ve seen many different theories. Some people like to go to the health center and stuff their pockets with the free condoms they give out. Other people like to buy Trojans in bulk. And some people like my friend Andy don’t believe in condoms at all (Andy, if you see this, congrats! I heard it’s a boy!) Personally, I like to get fun condoms.
Lately, I’ve been a huge fan of glow-in-the-dark condoms. Bringing up protection can be awkward, but if you say “Hey check this out! It’s a condom that glows in the dark.” It turns into a positive. You can even use it as an excuse, to see if it actually glows in the dark. Good luck out there, be safe haha!
-Nathan Tennent, Emerson
This is exactly how I turned my life around 10 years ago. I woke up one day and decided to pretend to be confident. I looked everyone in the eye and spoke a bit louder and smiled a lot. I stopped breaking eye contact with girls and I promoted my achievements at work. In that first years I met a new woman who became my wife, got a great job that I am still loving, moved from a tiny two room apartment to a 3000 sq foot house. I have great kids and a happy life.
I was borderline suicidal when I started the experiment.
I don’t even think about it now. I became what I pretended to be. Confident and happy. I don’t have to fake it anymore.
First, you can fake confidence through visualization. Simply play out your presentation going perfect, this week. Try visualizing for fifteen minutes per night, every night, at least one week before your real presentation. Another great way to fake confidence is through your posture and body language.
But not because your new body language will impress other people. Oh no. The truth is, your posture can make you feel more confident. Whether other people notice your new posture, or not.
-Mike Bennica, SoCal